ALESSANDRO RลZ
Wild Queer Magic
Helping queer men remember the medicine they were born to carry. Through ritual, shadowwork, and erotic practice.
The capacity to be fully seen by another man.
You learned to hide before you learned to be held. You learned desire before you learned to feel safe in your desire. So you built a life that looks beautiful from the outside, and inside you are still waiting for permission to take up the room.
You have done the therapy. You can name the pattern. And still you cannot hold your own gaze for more than a few seconds. Still something dims when desire enters the room. Still you have not found the brothers who can witness you whole.
This work is the bridge between knowing and embodying. Between being told you are enough and feeling it land in your chest. It is the slow return to the man who was here before you learned to make yourself smaller. He has been waiting.
Three doors into the same return. Choose the one that calls.
"Working with Alessandro has been a full circle experience. I am learning about myself in real time, in a safe and loving and supportive environment."
Death ยท Dream ยท Eros
Three movements that name the shape of every real transformation. The selves we let go of. The visions we recover. The bodies we come home to. This is how I work, and this is what we will move through together.
The slow, often grateful release of selves that kept you safe but no longer carry you. The good son. The one who made himself smaller so others could feel bigger. The man who learned to translate himself before he ever spoke. We let them go with reverence. They served you. They are not you.
The reclamation of a vision that belongs to you and no one else. What were you here to do before the world told you who to be. What is the life that requires the full size of your tenderness, your difference, your queerness to be lived. We listen for it together until it becomes audible to you.
The slow return to the body as home. To desire as compass. To pleasure as prayer. To the ancient understanding that your sexuality was never separate from your spirit, that the two have always been one fire, and that learning to tend that fire well is one of the most sacred things a man can do in this lifetime.
This is the territory. Mirror work, shamanic journey, somatic practice, IFS, and erotic embodiment are how we cross it together.
"In every original society on earth, there were people who held the function of teaching men how to love.
I work in that lineage."
Three portals
However you arrive, there is a door for you.
Courting the Man in the Mirror
A self-paced course in mirror work for queer men ready to come home to their own reflection. Six weeks of guided practice in three movements: shadow, golden, erotic. Most men who finish this work can finally hold their own gaze.
Bloom
An intimate group program for queer men ready to open up alongside other brothers walking the same path. Eight weeks of live calls, somatic practice, and ritual, building toward the deepest brotherhood most of us were never told was possible.
1:1 Bespoke Mentorship
For the man who has built a beautiful life and still cannot fully be himself inside of it. Bespoke private mentorship over three to six months, designed around what you specifically need to integrate. Application only.
Words of praise
"Instead of waiting for my score, I felt fully received."
"Working with Alessandro moved me past a threshold into a future I did not previously imagine was possible."
"I no longer need to feel small. I no longer need to be ashamed of what brings desire to me and my body."
"I did not realize how much I needed to be in healthy community with other queer men. I feel myself transforming in ways that previously felt out of reach."
"The veil between nudity and real intimate bonds has never felt safe. Until now."
"My queerness is a gift and it influences all that I am and all that I do. Working with Alessandro helped me see that."
"You are the first person I have found who is willing to celebrate what others scorned."
"I no longer need to feel small. I no longer need to be ashamed of what brings desire to me and my body."
"I did not realize how much I needed to be in healthy community with other queer men. I feel myself transforming in ways that previously felt out of reach."
"The veil between nudity and real intimate bonds has never felt safe. Until now."
"My queerness is a gift and it influences all that I am and all that I do. Working with Alessandro helped me see that."
"You are the first person I have found who is willing to celebrate what others scorned."
"For too long, I operated based on my deference to others. Through this work I get to take up space. I get to be seen."
"My desire is magnetic. Once I began realizing that I could be myself in my wants, more magical things started magnetizing in my life."
"Your willingness to celebrate queerness and invite us into the eros we so long rejected is beautiful, holy work."
"I came across your page and resonated deeply. It excited me to see open authentic conversations embodying queerness, medicine work, the earth, and magic as wholeness."
"This is such a blessed part of my journey, and it is carrying me forward."
"For too long, I operated based on my deference to others. Through this work I get to take up space. I get to be seen."
"My desire is magnetic. Once I began realizing that I could be myself in my wants, more magical things started magnetizing in my life."
"Your willingness to celebrate queerness and invite us into the eros we so long rejected is beautiful, holy work."
"I came across your page and resonated deeply. It excited me to see open authentic conversations embodying queerness, medicine work, the earth, and magic as wholeness."
"This is such a blessed part of my journey, and it is carrying me forward."
"Your sexuality was never separate from your spirit. They have always been one fire."
About Alessandro
I am a queer ceremonialist guiding men into deeper intimacy with themselves, their desire, and their own queer medicine. My work weaves shamanic practice, mirror work, somatic embodiment, IFS, and erotic ritual into containers where men can finally stop performing and come home.
I grew up in a small village in northern Italy, the only gay child in an all-male family. I learned early that the safest version of myself was a smaller version of myself.
I spent my twenties in Hollywood performing a self that was not mine, until I could no longer keep performing. I followed that reckoning into the Peruvian Amazon, where I apprenticed for years with Shipibo, Mestizo, and Ashaninka teachers. I came home and spent three years as Community Director at Sacred Sons before leaving to build the work I now hold for queer men.
Now I work with queer men, and with all men ready to come into right relationship with their own queerness. I am also a co-founder of Brotherhood of Lovers, the queer-led mystery school I am building with Langston Kahn and Jovanny Perez.
Awaken Erotic Aliveness
A free 7-day practice for queer men
In seven days, you can begin to feel what has been waiting underneath the performance. The body that has been holding itself in check starts to soften. Desire begins to feel less dangerous and more like a teacher. The shame that taught you to stay small begins to loosen its grip, gently, the way something releases when it knows it is finally being held with care.
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